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Because It Is Better to Be Kind
It is better to be kind than clever. If you haven’t heard that saying before, maybe you’ve heard other profound thoughts on kindness. Maybe thoughts from the Bible, like that the fruit of the Holy...
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The Hole in Our Complementarianism*
Where I come from women don’t preach. They don’t pastor. And, for the most part, they submit. I have to say, this was not drilled into me, it simply was. And then I went away to study at a conservative...
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The Realist Speaks: Because ‘Hot’ Is in the Eye of the Beholder
If you’ve been paying attention over the last year or so, you’ve watched the tumbleweed grow. A few well-known pastors referred to their wives as hot. In person. On Twitter. From the pulpit. Wherever....
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The Realist Speaks: 5 Reasons the BJU Scandal Will Go Away
So Bob Jones University fired GRACE, the team they hired to investigate historical abuses and failures to report. From my Twitter feed, I’m guessing most people who are outraged have no idea that this...
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The Realist Speaks: Child Protection Best Practices
Dear Ministry | On the Occasion of Your Child Protection Training: First of all, it’s commendable and right that you’ve gathered to talk about something so important, but I know some of you might feel...
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The Realist Speaks: Because It’s About Kids
Yes, that’s a World Vision link in my sidebar, and, yes, it’s been there since I did contracted writing for them last year. And, yes, it’s going to stay there. Over the past 48 hours I have cringed as...
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The Realist Speaks: Here’s to the Women
Here’s to the women who gave us life. In the words of Mitch Albom, “Behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where yours begins.” I’ve said it before and I’ll say it...
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Because Jack’s Back: Life Lessons from 24
I’m pretty sure the first TV series my husband and I ever binge-watched was Season 1 of FOX’s 24, starring Kiefer Sutherland. We had a baby and a toddler at the time and still somehow managed to watch...
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The Realist Speaks: 5 (More) Things You Should Never Say to a Victim
In February of this year, Mary DeMuth wrote a guest post for Sarah Bessey outlining 21 things that should never be said to an abuse survivor, but, I wanted to share a few more things that should never...
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The Realist Speaks: Marching Among the Wounded
But here's the thing about empathy: I can't force you to have it. And here's the thing about spiritual abuse I hope you'll one day understand: We almost never see it coming.
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